Parents and teenagers
Parents feel that it is difficult to live with teenagers. Teenagers have similar feelings about their parents, saying that it is not easy living with them. According to a recent research, the most common argument between parents and teenagers is that regarding untidiness and daily routine tasks.
On the one hand, parents go mad over messy rooms, clothes thrown on the floor and their children’s refusal to help with the housework.
On the other hand, teenagers lose their patience continually when parents blame them for dropping the towel in the bathroom, not cleaning up their room or refusing to do the shopping at the supermarket.
Psychologists say that communication is the most important thing in parent-child relationships. Parents should talk to their children but at the same time they should lend an ear to what they have to say.
Parents may scold their children when they are untidy but they should also understand that their room is their own private space. Communication is a two-way process. It is only by listening to and understanding each other that problems between parents and children can be settled.
青少年和家长
家长感觉和青少年期的孩子相处非常困难。处于青少年期的孩子也有同感，称和他们一起生活不容易。据一份最近的调查研究，家长和青少年最常的争执是房间不整洁和日常家务。
一方面，家长看到乱糟糟的房间就开始生气，衣服扔在地上，孩子还拒绝帮忙做家务。
另一方面，当家长责怪孩子把毛巾扔在浴室地板上，没有收拾好自己的房间，或者不肯一起去超市购物时，处于青少年期的孩子总是失去耐心。
心理学家认为在亲子关系中最重要的事情就是沟通。家长应该和孩子谈话，但也应该竖起耳朵听孩子的声音。
当孩子们不够整洁的时候，家长也许会训斥他们，但是他们也应该理解孩子的房间是私有空间。沟通是双向的过程。只有倾听和理解对方，家长和孩子之间的问题才可以解决。